Wednesday, March 12, 2014

Subconscious Programming To Have The Best Relationship Possible

Yesterday I wrote about meditation and visualization, both of which are pieces of what I would like to talk about today: programming the subconscious mind. Specifically,  I'd like to talk about programming your subconscious mind to increase love, closeness and all good feelings in your relationship.
For a lot of background information about what the subconscious mind is and what it does, visit this post. This article is about the various methods to use it's incredible powers to help you to have the feelings of love, closeness, joy, passion etc that you want to have.
Today's post is about using the subconscious mind as a tool to improve relationships.  The following are some of the best ways that I know and use:

    1. Affirmations. An affirmation is a statement that you make over and over about who you want to be our what you want to happen. I'm truth, every thought is an affirmation. When you affirm something you declare it the way you want it to be as of it were presently that way.
Always state your affirmations in the present and in the positive (what you want, not what you don't want).
Affirmations should also feel good for you and they're much more effective if they feel true for you. 
You can come up with as many affirmations as you like, but they're effective only if you say them to yourself again and again,  as often as you can remember throughout your day.
Examples of good affirmations to improve relationships:
"Everyday I am becoming a better partner"
"Everyday my relationship feels better and better"
"I am deeply lovable and loved."
"Everyday I trust and respect my mate more"
"I know exactly how to give love to my partner in ways that feel amazing to him/ her"
"Sex with my mate gets better every time"
"My mate and I get closer each day"
"My mate and I fall deeper in love each day"
"I am a wonderful partner"
    2. Prayer. This is possibly the best way that I know to connect to something higher than yourself. Whether you call this the subconscious mind or God, the results are the same. Prayer is an act of surrender and faith, both of which speak to the deeper mind. 
When you pray, it's helpful to appeal to something that you feel is the highest possible form of energy. Then after you have asked for whatever it is that you need,  leave it up to the will of this divine being to decide how to best resolve the issue or bring it to you.

    3. Visualize. This is a wonderful pastime as well as a very useful tool to speak to the c deeper mind.  Check out this post for more information about how to make visualization effective in improving your relationship.

    4. Ask yourself questions. Your brain is a question answering machine. When you ask a question, your brain will search until it finds an answer.
This means that if you are asking questions like: "Why do I always mess things up?" Your brain will search until it finds an answer that satisfies you. The key is to ask yourself empowering questions, like: "Why does everything work out so perfectly for me?" Or in the context of increasing good feelings in relationships, it could be: "How is it possible that I love him/her more each day?" or something similar.
    5. Put on a  performance. Almost all of the world's religions perform rituals of some kind. When you put a prayer or request into action and use props like a statue or a necklace, you are performing a ritual. To me this is really not a religious act but a spiritual one.
Start simple. Find a necklace or other piece of jewelry that you really like. Light a candle next to it and let it burn out over night. Know that the candle represents wisdom and it will infuse the jewelry and that whenever you wear it, you,ll know just what to do and say to bring you and your partner closer.

    6. Be grateful for whatever it is that you want as if it's already in your life. Say to  yourself that you're grateful for it and feel the feelings of gratitude.

    7. Act as if it's true. Of it's a best friend kind of relationship you want with your mate, how would you behave if you already had this, if the two of you were already best friends? How would you treat him/her if he/she was your beat friend?

    8. Intend. This is the most powerful and effective way to speak to both the conscious and subconscious mind. It incorporates all of the other ways I've mentioned.
Whether you are aware of it or not, you are always intending something. It doesn't matter if it's good or bad, you always have an idea of an outcome.
When you have this idea of a preferred outcome, you are thinking of it often,  daydreaming of it even. This could be called visualization.  
When you intend, you ask yourself questions about what it is that you intend.
You say affirmations in the form of self talk. If it is something you feel strongly that you either want or don't want, you add strong emotions to the affirmations and is likely that you say them almost constantly.
Intending is a feeling of desire and a feeling of knowing that you  deserve what it is that you want and that you can have it. When you intend it isn't just a wish, it's the center of a target that you focus on intensely. Then you take action, you pull back your arrow and aim precisely, and then you let it go.
Knowing what the center is is the first step, you must know exactly what it is that you intend the outcome to be. Then your focus must be on that, all your thoughts and actions must be made deliberately in the positive direction of that intention. This is the sure fire way to getting what it is that you intend.

In relationships, there aren't always clear cut actions to take and sometimes you don't know what the best thing to do is. Relax your little self and let your higher, deeper mind do the work. 

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