Saturday, March 8, 2014

Feel Good Now and Increase Good Feelings In Your Relationship

The most important thing that you can do to make your relationship the best that it can be is to feel good about yourself and your life. When you feel bad, you don't treat others with the same love and respect that you do when you're feeling good.
When you're feeling bad, this is when you expect others to give to you and get angry when they don't. This is when you see all the faults in others and think of all the "bad" things they do. Reacting out of bad feelings causes problems.
When you are feeling good, however, you see the best in people and you want to give love to them. This is when you think of all the good things a person has done and you want to be with them. Good relationships are built on good feelings and good feelings always start within you.
Having said all of this, we all have moods, and sometimes these moods are awful. What can you do when u you're in an awful mood to raise yourself up to feeling good?

  • Listen to happy music. Music has the amazing ability to lift even the worst mood. 
  • Exercise. Exercise had been proven to lift spirits.  Don't push yourself like crazy if you're just starting out, just get moving. 
  • Dance.  It kind of combines the first two suggestions and is number one on my last.  If I'm feeling down, I know dancing is absolutely the way to uplift myself. 
  • Pay it forward. When you give to another it seems a message to yourself that you have plenty to give. Find something that inspires you.  You may not be interested in serving food at a soup kitchen and that's okay. Cook for a friend who needs a stress free night. Doing a good deed  anonymously is also awesome.
  • Get outside of yourself.  Instead of focusing on what to say while somebody else is talking, listen to every word.  Instead of thinking of what others could do to make to you feel good, think of what you could do to make them feel good.  Get interested in them instead of wondering of you're interesting. 
  • Get outside.  There is something wonderful about being in nature.  Very few people can feel bad when they are in a naturally beautiful place. 
  • Pray and talk with whatever you believe to be your creator. Ask for help. I do this every time I'm in a bad mood.  I say, "Spiral me up". It kind of reminds me of:"Beam me up, Scottie", and that lightens things up. 
  • Mediate. Take 10 minutes to just close your eyes and breathe. It's amazing the difference just doing this can make. 
  • Hold yourself the way you would if you were happy. Walk with a bounce on your step, keep your head up, smile at people and breathe fully.  Even if you don't feel like it, doing this will send a signal to your brain that you're happy and you'll soon start to feel it. 
  • Spend some time doing something you love. This seems obvious, but when you're feeling bad it's not something many of us think to do. What's your favorite hobby? Spend an hour or two doing it. 
  • Take a bath or a long shower.  Baths are so cleansing.  Combine this with music and candles or meditation for an even better effect. 
  • Get grateful. This has been emphasized so much in the last few years, but I feel that it can't be stated enough. You can't be thankful and sad at the same time.
Ask yourself what you need to do to be happy right now and come up with your own list.  You know yourself best and you know what will work to make you feel good. 

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