“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” (1 Cor. 13:4-7)
Love is patient. Love accepts the other as they are and loves them peacefully while they go through whatever it is that they are going through, however long it takes. Love loves through bad moods, illnesses, mistakes and all imperfections.
Love is kind. Love considers the feelings of the other and wants them to be well and feel good. Love is the action of giving love in ways that will bring more well being and assist the other in feeling good. Love is loving kindness in thought, feeling, speech and action.
It does not envy. Love doesn't feel resentful because another has something that it wants. Instead, love is happy for you when you are happy. Love supports you in all that you do and want to do.
It does not boast, it is not proud. Love doesn't keep track of the things that it has done well. It doesn't keep score at all. Instead love is humble. Love understands that we are all the same, all equal. It puts itself above or beneath no one.
It does not dishonor others. Love only knows how to bring well being and make others feel good. Nothing about love is painful. Love respects others, holds them in high regard, celebrates others as they are in their uniqueness and sees the best in them.
It is not self-seeking. Love does not seek outside itself to be filled. Love understands that concern with the happiness of the self and seeking to get something from another is taking and love only knows how to give. Love finds ultimate pleasure in service. It desires for the well being and good feelings of the other as much as the other desires it for themselves. Instead of seeking for another to fulfill it's desires, love endlessly asks the question: "What is the most loving thing that I can do for this particular person in this particular moment?" Love knows that love is an action, not a feeling. It doesn't need to feel love toward another to give love to them. It's so easy and natural to give love when another is behaving in ways that please you, but if you give only in those times is that truly love? The incredible strength of love is to give love generously without expecting to receive anything at all in return.
It is not easily angered. Love understands that whatever is not love is fear. It knows that when it seems that another is being unloving, what they truly are is afraid. Love sees this fear as an injury that needs tending to and healing. Love heals and soothes by extending acceptance, forgiveness and peace.
It keeps no record of wrongs. Love keeps no score of any kind, but instead sees each moment as an opportunity to bring well being and good feelings to another. It has no thoughts of victimization, but accepts the other as is and forgives each slight immediately. Love is the act of extending loving kindness in the present and treats each new moment as a fresh beginning. Love is in a constant state of giving in the present.
Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. Love doesn't know that evil exists. Where there is love, there is only light, goodness and well being. Love is truth, for love accepts completely others without desire to change them in any way. It sees the good in all situations and all people. Love understands that knowing truth is always better than denying it, hiding from it or protecting the self or others from it. Denying that something is true is only to bury it and it will surface eventually. If we share who we truly are and accept and love another as he or she truly is, then we can love each other truly. Otherwise, it is only two masks acting out a part and never really knowing who the other is. The soul knows all and feels great freedom when the truth is spoken and lived.
It always protects. Love only knows how to give in ways that increase well being and good feelings. It keeps lover and beloved safe from harm because it takes action to bring this well being and good feelings to the other. Love doesn't have any idea that it can be any other way. It only knows how to be love and give love by taking lovingly kind actions. That is the force-field that is love. It is incapable of harm.
Always trusts. Love knows that all is well and that others are only adding well being, even when appearances suggest otherwise. From the perspective of the ego things may appear to be unsafe, but love knows it can surrender because it sees the bigger picture. It knows that the universe itself is constructed of love and that each individual is part of this whole. What we do to one, we do to all and that includes ourselves. Know that you are love, you are the source of love itself, and give it in all situations, to all people, at all times and there will never be a reason not to trust.
Always hopes. Love expects that love will always be there in inexhaustible abundance because it knows that within each being there is an endless supply of love. Love understands that each one of us is the source of love and we can tap into that by giving love. Therefore, no matter how hopeless a situation may seem, the source of love is always within, always available and there is nothing to ever fear.
Always perseveres. Love continues to give in kind ways no matter what. Love acts in ways that increase well being and good feelings whether it "feels like it" or not. Love extends peace and joy at all times, through every challenge and difficulty. To me, this is what true commitment is.