I believe in a thing called love, with every fiber of my being. I believe that it is the most worthy cause in life, to love deeply and truly, not just a selected few people in your life, but life itself and that includes all people. I also believe that the more tools I can use to help me to effectively love more truly and fully the better. I recently discovered a fantastic tool to assist me. I just finished a very interesting book called the Honey Moon Effect by Bruce Lipton Ph.D. The book was surprising easy to read.What I picked up most in this book was about how to create "heaven on earth" relationships using the power of the subconscious mind.
I did not realize before reading this book how incredibly powerful the subconscious mind is. According to Bruce Lipton Ph.D. (paraphrased): The subconscious mind is associated with the neural activity of approximately 90% of the brain. The conscious mind can process 40 nerve impulses per second. The subconscious can process 40 million nerve impulses per second! Imagine being able to program that incredibly powerful part of you to assist you in creating a close and loving relationship. The results would be extraordinary.
Our subconscious minds are our "autopilot", they are the part of us that acts without conscious thought. This is the part of us that is our habits and all that we do automatically, which is a huge part of our lives. As a matter of fact Lipton says that if you take an inventory of your life, you are taking a snapshot of your subconscious mind externalized. What a tremendous opportunity! What a gift to be able to set my autopilot to my loving destination!
Although it may not happen over night, there are many tools that you can use to assist you in reprogramming your subconscious mind. The first is awareness that you are mostly operating subconsciously (we all are). When you are doing something that is detrimental to your own or other's well being, you can examine your behavior without judgment and know that you are probably doing so subconsciously. In a sense, you become more conscious when you become aware of where you are unconscious. This "bringing the unconscious to the conscious" will help you to be more awake and more mindful.
You can learn the ways that Bruce Lipton suggests shifting subconscious mind here.